I’m not that girl…
Dressed and put together… even at the local market
Home made meals everyday
Laundry done daily
Activities perfectly scheduled
Size negative 0
Tight | Rigid | Squeezed
I am this girl…
As on time as I can be
I’m a little messy
Home made meals when I can get the time
Clean underwear at least
Working on my homework
Receiving extra texts about kids activities
House is “lived in”
Not sure size
Tired | Happy | Alive
I am not perfect, but I am perfectly happy living in my chaotic life. I am not looking for your approval. I am not a model or superstar, but my heart and soul are so full of love and life that not being that girl is actually ok with me.
The pressure of the New Year, new goals, new weight, new you, are extremely overwhelming, and actually exhausting. When it doesn’t transform as quickly as we think, the new you becomes discouraged and then it goes back to what wasn’t new previously, and the disappointment is very palpable. A cycle that if not broken, tends to keep up feeling broken.
Let’s not set that expectation of “new” so beyond our scope of belief. Lets make the mindset in evolution of reflecting about the past yet evolving into the present and live now.
We all have goals and setting a goal is amazing. Here is the thing though, goals have expectations and sometimes it’s not the goal that is overwhelming, it’s the expectation that can be blurred into a warped reality that isn’t reality at all. Whew, that’s a mouthful let alone a thought that can be hard to grasp.
Evolving into your best has many aspects and with so many they can not be done all at once. Taking it one step at a time and enjoying the transforming adventure, makes the goals not an end piece, but a journey of living and being present in your own chapter in this life.
Make your goals, write them down, be creative, be present and enjoy the ride. Forgive yourself if you wander, because that just may be a detour.
Why is it so difficult to forgive?
What are the steps to forgiveness?
As with anything is appears to start with acceptance.
Believing in who you are is the first step and then let go. It’s like watching the darkness fade away and seeing the sunrise for the first time. Truly accept yourself. It’s okay, because you are okay, and life is okay.
Respect the decision to accept and respect yourself. If you were to describe yourself as if you were someone else who knew you, would you like you? Accept you? Respect you? Of course, you would.
Respect, accept and forgive as if you are looking at someone else!
You are supportive and generous in supporting others, so why not act as if you were that other person looking in with support. Encouragment.
Forgive yourself and accept yourself as you follow the journey meant for you.
The smell that instantly takes you back to grandmas, the feel of the warmest blanket from mom when you are having a bad day, the amazing taste of Sunday dinner with family. What do they all have in common? Comfort, Love and the ever-ending feeling of safety.
These are memories that our brains have recognized for just that. Most of the time it’s a good memory of comfort and love, but occasionally the comfort comes from just wanting to feel better and what results can be actually devastating and debilitating. What if I said that you could have that amazing, love and comfort with you all the time? Surrounding yourself with similarities will still have your brain sensing the same emotions and can elevate you in so many ways.
Some aromatherapy that brings about being at grandmas. Having a warm shawl, blanket or even the softest shirt while you are working. Bringing in the ingredients to make a rendition of that Sunday meal. These are brining in to your surroundings feelings that your brain will recognize and then release the hormones that make us feel safe, secure and loved.
The Carb Complex…
High carb, low carb, no carb, carb loading…
WHAT THE CARB?
Which way is a girl to go?
The dreaded thought that is either never talked about, or talked about how to avoid it! So, lets talk carbs!
Carbohydrates are the fuel or gas per say that you ingest or put in your car to have energy to go from one place to another or one activity to the other. With that being said take a step back and let that sink in.
Having a hard time wrapping that around your head, go grab a snack (nuts, seeds, grains, greens, fruits or vegetables) then come back.
Okay, now that you can focus, let’s get back to it. Carbohydrates are fuel not only for your muscles, but your BRAIN! Your brain uses complex carbohydrates to maintain focus and to think and to keep you safe! Now I said it. Complex Carbohydrate. So now that I said it, let’s break it down. Simply put you can breakdown carbohydrates into 2 categories, “simple” and “complex”
White bread Whole grains
White pasta Nuts
White flour Seeds
Sugary cereal Legumes
Candy Leafy greens
Refined or processed versions Vegetables
While both are broken down and used for energy, the simple version does not have the fiber or vitamins and minerals that your body needs to sustain function. With the simple form you will get a boost, but then quickly crash and need another “fix” to feel the same energy and focus, and if you are not eating “carbs” at all, your body is sluggish, tired, over stimulated yet unmotivated and concentrating on something will take forever, let alone if you are running on a treadmill or have heavy weights above your head.
Real, whole food is essential for your best potential. Forbidding an entire food group isn’t the answer. Empowering yourself to enjoy your food and creating a wonderful new relationship is a recipe for success.